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Extreme Coupon Shopping Causes Extreme Stress

A Few Thoughts on  on “Extreme” Coupon Shopping

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You have seen the shows and heard all the stories, people spending mere pennies for items you pay full price for. So why not try it yourself? Well you can, but make sure you are cautious and always keep your emotional and mental state in check. Yes, you might be saving hundreds of dollars every week, but you can’t concentrate or relax because you are trying to think of the next big deal, or you are planning and plotting how to get more coupons. It is an addicting habit and it can get out of control. When left without limitations, extreme couponing can be just as dangerous to your health as smoking or depression.

Couponing can take over your life and cause stress and anxiety you do not need or want. Is it worth it to buy that butter for 25 cents when you end up having a breakdown? Your physical and mental health should be priority over everything else!

Plus, the consistent exposure to disappointment isn’t good for you either. Maybe you go into a store with coupons in hand ready to score the best deal of the day, but then the item is sold out! So you scramble to the customer service desk and request they call another store to see if they have the items. They call a couple of stores before finding one that has what you’re looking for, GREAT! That store happens to be 20 miles away, but you don’t care you are so wrapped up in the fact that you are going to save a lot of money. So, you get into your car and speed as fast as you can because you don’t want anyone else to buy the item, even though they have already saved it at the service desk for you. In the process of speeding to the next store you’re pulled over and get a ticket, but you are so concerned about getting to the next store you just throw it in your purse and continue to the store. It doesn’t matter to you that you cut off five senior citizens; they were in your way.

Is a speeding ticket, your safety, and gas money it took to get to the second store worth it? Yes, it is great to save money but it shouldn’t be the only reason you coupon. You do not need to stock up on 40 tubes of toothpaste; they will expire before you can use them! Do yourself a favor and step out of the situation you have built for yourself and take a look. Does this look like something that could be mental or physically harming you? If you think yes, then you need to do something to change it. Cut back on the amount of time you spend couponing or even take a few weeks off and see how you feel.

For the first week you may feel antsy and like you need to be out there saving. But after that you will see what it is like to be much less stressed, and all of that built up stress was something you had the power to change all along.

 

The Truth about Teenagers and Depression

depressed teenagerTeenagers often experience strong emotions for the first time, and for them, everything feels like the end of the world. It’s a time of life where, as humans, we tend to exaggerate every emotion we have; teenagers are emotional vampires. We’ve always been this way, it’s in our nature; except now, teenagers now have a voice that reaches billions of people.

The teenagers of today can broadcast their mood swings publicly, for all to see. You’ll notice on Twitter, almost every teenager claims to have some mental disorder, as if it’s a badge of honor. You might hear your teenager claim to have OCD because she doesn’t like a messy room, or maybe she’s lonely and sad, so she determines that it’s depression. These are very serious problems that ruin the lives of many, and they shouldn’t be minimized by those seeking attention. 

Chances are, if your son or daughter is really struggling through something, he or she probably won’t broadcast it in public. However, some people do use twitter when they’re suffering from depression, to connect with others in the same boat. So you have to know the signs to tell if it’s a genuine problem, or if you have to talk to your child about the magnitude of his or her attention-seeking habits.

How can you tell if your teens tweets are legit or an over dramatization of a bad day? Check some of the signs below.

 

When Your Teenager is Deeply Depressed You May Notice…

  • Comments or a belief that life is pointless
  • A lack of interest in things he or she once loved
  • Dramatic changes in weight or appetite
  • Physical laziness/lethargy
  • Self-loathing, overly critical of self
  • Poor attendance/performance at school
  • Writing about death, giving away things
  • Frequent complaints of physical pain
  • Withdrawn behavior
  • Possible self-harm or drug usage

When Your Teenager is Just “Twitter Depressed” You May Notice…

  • Your son or daughter is still interested in hobbies and family
  • He or she also posts about how great life is only a few days after several depression tweets
  • A coincidence between certain events and the “depression” that seems to come and go with it
  • Several other mental illness claims such as “anorexia” or “OCD”
  • He or She often tweets about how hard it is to have [insert various disorder here]

 

How does yoga influence emotions?

Yoga: Helping To Heal and Balance Emotions

 

Yoga is a body, mind, and spirit practice. The word yoga means, to “yoke”, unite, or join together “at the roots”. In layman’s terms, yoga is the bringing together of every aspect of the person, and also bringing the practitioner to a place of oneness with all of existence. So when we speak of health, in yogic philosophy, we are speaking of complete health, body, mind, and emotions.

 

Yoga aims to place its practitioners into a meditative state, only focusing on the present moment, not the past or the future. In yoga, neither the past nor the future exists. There is only Now. So there is nothing else to consider. Since the 70’s, meditation and other methods of reducing stress have proven to have positive effects on depression and anxiety, and have been thought to be possible effective treatments. It is beneficial that the physical practice of yoga can be done in many different forms; from relaxing slow movements, to a more strenuous and vigorous style. There is a method of yoga practice for everyone, in spite of their physical abilities or disabilities.

 

Because yoga is a practice that just about everyone can participate in, it is available to those with emotional challenges and illnesses, no matter their physical circumstance. According to many reviews of what yoga can do for the physical body, yoga practice, if done consistently, can lessen the body’s responses to extreme stress; therefore, it may alleviate some symptoms of anxiety and depression. By assisting in reducing levels of stress and anxiety, yoga then helps to balance our stress response systems, which decreases our physiological responses. These physiological responses are the ones that usually raise our heart rate and blood pressure.

 

A 2005 German study on the effects of yoga, included 113 participants who had admitted to dealing with high stress and anxiety, major depression, and even bipolar disorders. These willing participants were all patients of New Hampshire Psychiatric Hospital. All of the participants agreed to take one yoga class, and after that single yoga class, tension, stress, anxiety, anger, and fatigue, were reported to have significantly decreased. This decrease was measured by the Profile of Mood States, which is a 65 item questionnaire the participants answered before and after the yoga session.

 

Women who participated in a three-month yoga study also reported decreases in perceived stresses, anxiety, fatigue, and depression. Of course, anyone dealing with deep emotional issues and illnesses should always seek medical attention. No one is suggesting to use yoga as a replacement for medical and psychiatric help; but instead as a supplement to any ongoing treatments one may be receiving.

 

As was stated in the beginning, yoga is about unity and wholeness, not exclusion; it aims to treat the entire person, body, mind, and spirit.

Observing Students’ Emotional Response to the Game Portal

 

What Portal and Similar Video Games can Teach Us

portal video game helps students at wabash collegeWabash College might just have the coolest and most innovative professor in the country. Portal was on the syllabus in a 2011 semester at the college, and with good reason. The professor understands that certain games, movies, songs, and books can pique different emotional and human responses.

They can also teach us about life, and give insight into some of life’s most provocative and unanswered questions. Portal is the perfect game for the existentialist.

Professor Michael Abbot used Portal as educational material during his “Enduring Questions” class. During this time, he taught the students while observing their emotional responses to playing as Chell.

With copies of the game from Valve, Abbot’s students ventured into a world of emotional enlightenment. Abbot’s precursor to the game was his demonstration of Presentation of Self in Everyday Life. Dr. Goffman’s book explains how humans display different versions of ourselves in various situations. When we’re in social settings, we are not the same as when we are alone. There’s a saying, “he knows me better than I know myself“. While only an expression, the phrase can’t have true meaning because we are always most honest with who we are, when we are alone. Only the closest people in our lives can see into that person, and even then, it’s still not the same.

GLaDOS, as a character, is aligned closely to Goffman’s text about slowly removing the protective layer to get down to one’s true personality. Her position in this created a great example of how we become ourselves once we’re comfortable in our environment. The game displays this by letting you into her personality slowly, test-by-test. Then, in the sequel, you learn even more as you go into the history behind the snide, sassy computer-villain.

Beyond the fan-favorite GLaDOS character, the game puts Chell in a few other emotionally straining situations.

  • Emotional Stress – The pressure to escape or die might leave her with a ton of emotional baggage at the end. Chell has to live in constant “Fight or Flight” mode; the stress will eventually get her if she doesn’t get out.
  • Verbal Abuse – GlaDOS calls Chell a slew of names and ends many tests with a fat joke. Chell will end up with an eating disorder.
  • Loneliness – Chell doesn’t speak; she won’t give Aperture the satisfaction of a response. There are no other humans around, all she has is her companion cube.
  • Manipulation – Giving Chell a companion cube to love, only to make her kill it in the end; it does things to a person
  • Abandonment – Unclear whether it’s true or just a jab, Chell hears repeatedly from GLaDOS that her parents didn’t want her.

During and after playing the game, Abbot used a student forum to create a discussion about the game, and the responses varied. Some students identified with the main character, and said they hoped that they’d escape. Other students felt a sense of accomplishment, as they felt like they were escaping.

The game also inspired creativity for many, and with the comedy, emotion, and suspense going further in the sequel, it has gotten a lot of attention for its impressive storyline. A fan-made film, by Dan Trachtenberg, depicts the emotional responses from Chell, and the events in the test chamber.

 

 

It doesn’t have to be Portal, but when you feel overwhelmed by life’s burning questions, escape into an elaborate story, and analyze your feelings afterwards. You’ll be amazed at the wonderful effect it can have. Video games like Portal and Bioshock make effective stories because they’re anecdotes that you interact with, and in some cases, you determine the outcome.

Three Major Psychological Problems in AMC’s Breaking Bad

Breaking Bad” recently won Best Drama Series for a good reason. The journey from white to black was a traumatic one, and the show is actually very accurate when it comes to displaying how a human would react to these situations in real life. To say goodbye to TV’s best emotional roller coaster, we’ll cover a few of the psychological catastrophes in the show.

Notice: We mention spoilers, be careful if you’re not current with the show, as ruining the experience is another psychological catastrophe for a different day.

Walt

A recent episode started with a flashback to Walt’s earlier days, when he was still himself, and it starts with the first lie he ever told about his new life. This shows us how that person still channels in through Walt sometimes, which is why we love and hate him all within a span of about twelve seconds. The idea is he could be compartmentalizing another part of himself, the part he lost with Grey Matter. You can see the change vividly in a more recent event, when he called Skylar on the phone, fighting tears back to assault her with a slew of insults, which conveniently exonerate her. The show, coupled with Cranston’s exceptional acting skills, created a highly emotional scene that told us something good might still be inside of him. By the end of last week’s episode, we learned that Heisenberg might have completely taken over. In earlier episodes, it seemed that the cancer was the catalyst to his behavior, but it’s possible that this personality transformation is a result of deep-seated anger and resentment and a passion for chemistry.

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The Problem: Personality disorder, possible Schizophrenia, anger, God Complex
The Solution: Walter White would need to turn himself in, and seek professional help while under custody. Unfortunately, he doesn’t have much time left, so it’s safe to say Walt is gone for good.

Jesse

Jesse’s drug addiction and lifestyle have always been the bane of his existence, and for a while, we all wanted him to get better. Everyone wants nothing more than a good, happy life for Jesse. Unfortunately, for him, after torture and losing everyone he’s ever loved, it’s likely he’ll return to a life of drug abuse and crime. A happy conclusion for him would entail a lot of therapy and love, which everyone is rooting for. The Bad News? With one episode left, it doesn’t seem likely. Aside from seeing death around every corner, we have to remember that Jesse was abjured by his parents, and he still has PTSD from shooting Gale.

The Problem: PTSD, Depression, Drug Addiction, Torture, and Kidnapping
The Solution: In order for Jesse to have a fighting chance, Brock needs to make it out of next week’s episode alive. If all goes well, Jessie could return to rehab, manage a deal with the DEA, and (hopefully) move on to a happy, new life.

Skylar

Skylar’s act of an abused spouse may be more than a ploy to get out of trouble. It’s possible that since the moment Walt told her that he is “the one who knocks”, she’s been terrified to make her own decisions. It’s also possible that she feels the same way we all did in the first season, sympathetic and understanding of his reasoning and motives.

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The Problem: Domestic Abuse Victim
Solution: Do everything to use what Walt gave her to move on to a good life with the children, seek outpatient therapy and life counseling.

 

Todd

We don’t have enough time for Todd.

Problem: Everything
Solution:
Nothing

 

 

 

 

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Does Diet Affect Your Mood? Five Tips for a “Happy” Diet

When you’re depressed, you  don’t stop to think about things, let alone the mundane everyday tasks you’ve always done, like eating. You might not realize that vitamins and hormones dictate our emotions, and serotonin plays a huge role in depression. Serotonin is a chemical that your brain produces when it’s feeling genuinely happy and content. Depression often comes from situational turmoil in one’s life, but it can also come from inadequate serotonin production, which means a person can feel depressed even if he or she has a great life. Other vitamins influence our moods as well, so it does make sense that the foods we eat play a role in how we feel.

Here are some foods you can eat to help improve your mood on the “bad days”.

  • Eggs, fish, lean beef and chicken are all rich in Vitamins B-6 and B-12. These vitamins help promote chipper and relaxed moods.
  • Nuts and seeds, like almonds, are magnesium rich. Magnesium is a big one if your depression is from a chemical imbalance because it promotes serotonin production and it increases natural energy levels. Opting for sugary or salty nuts won’t work as well as the unsalted or unsweetened brand.
  • Complex carbohydrates like strong grains take longer to digest, and that helps regulate blood sugars. When blood sugar isn’t spiking, irritability isn’t either.
  • Green tea contains an amino acid L-theanine that diminishes the appetite, which prevents overeating and the subsequent remorse, and it naturally increases happiness.
  • Opt for complex fruits, like pineapples and pomegranates. Foods that are rich in Vitamin A and C as well as copper and fiber all help you feel and look better. A good theory is that if it’s hard to eat, and if it takes effort to chew, it will probably take longer to digest, and it improves blood flow, serotonin production, and weight loss.

What to Do if You Have a “Problem Child”

A Problem Child will take his or her toll on family, teachers, and anyone who may have authority over the kid.  Mostly, kids in general have trouble expressing their emotions and in some cases, kids may feel like they can’t be honest about feelings or they might be in trouble. Now, add any other stress to a child, and they’ll probably lose it and act out. It’s hard to blame them; kids can’t handle pressure the way we can, it takes years of building emotional strength to handle life’s largest challenges. When you’re challenged as a child, with anything from a divorce to a death, it changes you.

Here’s what you can do if your child is acting out:

  • Identify if it’s medical, psychological or emotional issues causing your child anguish
  • Gather all of your information about what sets the behavior off
  • Consider that it may be a learning disability
  • Think about the home ife; has anything major happened?
  • If necessary, seek counseling; many behavioral problems are easier to treat when they’re not treated early enough. If you’re unsure, just contact us for advice.

How to Get through an Argument with Your Mate

Okay, so maybe that’s easier said than done. Each of us reacts to anger in our own, unique way. Some people can let the little things go, while others get lost in their emotions, seeing only red, and often acting unreasonable.

First, it’s hard, but try to understand what is making you unhappy, so that you can have a rational, adult discussion with your mate. Even simply reflecting before you respond shows a great deal of respect.

Then, ask yourself how severe your problem is. Was it unforgivable, or was it something minor than you can let go? If it’s the latter, try letting your guard down. In a battle, someone has to back down; it doesn’t work well if both parties are overly combative. If the issue isn’t that huge in the grand scheme of things, try hard to let it go.

It’s like the infamous professor story:

  • A professor picked up an empty mayonnaise jar and filled it with golf balls.
  • He asked the students if the jar was full. They said that it was…
  • The professor picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.
  • The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.
  • He asked the students again if the jar was full. They said that it was…
  • The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. The sand filled up everything else.
  • He asked once more if the jar was full. They said that it was…
  • The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.

The sand is everything else; the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Take care of the golf balls first—the things that really matter.

Set your priorities; the rest is just sand.

(Read the full version here- http://www.biz.colostate.edu/mti/tips/pages/MayonnaiseJarandTwo-Beers.aspx)

How to Indetify Learning Disabilities in Children

Identifying learning disabilities in children

Counseling for Adhd Dyslexia and other learning disabilitiesLearning disabilities in children often go unnoticed. Many people, even good parents and teachers, can miss a few signs, as they are often cloaked under what most consider “poor behavior”. Adults expect a certain level of attention and success out of a child, based on his or her peers, and when a child does not perform up-to par, people often assume that he or she simply isn’t trying. Not only is that very far from the truth, but it’s offensive to the child, making them feel frustrated and alone. Identifying learning disabilities early on helps a child accept that he or she learns differently, and it can help their confidence.

Children with learning disabilities often struggle with self-esteem and loneliness, which can actually kill their mood and exacerbate their disorders. Take ADHD for example, kids with ADHD often do things in a unconventional way, which frustrates others.

The key to helping a child with a learning disability is an understanding that they are not lazy or unmotivated.

Watch for problems with motor skills. If your child struggles with putting letters or numbers in order, it may coincide with his or her inability to organize toys and clothes. Poor coordination while walking, talking, or writing is a big sign of motor skill problems.

You can also look for developmental delays. If your child appears to do many things slower than his or her peers do, he or she could have a developmental delay, or your kid may be struggling with only one thing that holds everything back. This is why communication is important with your child, you have to be able to identify what the setback is.

Watch your child’s interaction with schoolwork. If he or she never touches it, your child may be unmotivated or lazy. However, if you often see your son or daughter often start work but they never finish it, that’s a big sign of ADHD and other frustrating things.

Check their emotional levels. Does your child get angry when you mention his or her performance? Do you notice depressed or irritable moods for no particular reason? High peaks of mania and motivation, followed by low moods are also a big sign of learning disability.

Look for frequent confusion in your son or daughter. If he or she is always losing belongings or focus, it may be a learning disability. 

Relationship Advice: Men and Women Communicate Differently [INFOGRAPHIC]

Making a relationship work is all about communication, love, and respect. First, understand that men and women behave and converse differently, which means they sometimes interpret body language and actions contrary from the true message. Women handle their woes and emotions differently from men, and a lack of proper empathy is often the downfall to many couples.

Helpful tips for communicating with the ladies:

  • Sometimes, women have a hard time asking for help. She may be aware that you’re not a mind reader, but she still may feel too weak or proud to admit it. Sometimes, simply asking if there’s anything you can do to help is the best gesture.
  • Don’t size-up your finances unless she specifically mentions it, you may worry more about your income than she does.
  • Even if it’s a small lie, it will make everything so, so much worse when she finds out.
  • Women… just… cry. She may not know why or when, but it’s a natural thing and it happens to many women. Crying doesn’t mean she’s mad or sad, it simply means she’s feeling emotional, and it could be about anything.

Helpful tips for communicating with men:

  • Playing shy or unavailable is one thing, but when a girl plays excessively hard to get, it can cause him to lose interest, so be careful. Avoid serious head games at all costs.
  • He’s sensitive about his looks too; if you expect compliments from your guy, be ready to give some too.
  • If you don’t want him to judge your clothing size, don’t judge the size of his bank account.

 

Both genders should always avoid harsh words and name calling during arguments, as those wounds are sometimes the hardest to heal.

For an in-depth look at how different the two genders really are, browse over this intriguing infographic: 

Relationship facts revealed: Men vs. Women

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