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How to Get through an Argument with Your Mate

Okay, so maybe that’s easier said than done. Each of us reacts to anger in our own, unique way. Some people can let the little things go, while others get lost in their emotions, seeing only red, and often acting unreasonable.

First, it’s hard, but try to understand what is making you unhappy, so that you can have a rational, adult discussion with your mate. Even simply reflecting before you respond shows a great deal of respect.

Then, ask yourself how severe your problem is. Was it unforgivable, or was it something minor than you can let go? If it’s the latter, try letting your guard down. In a battle, someone has to back down; it doesn’t work well if both parties are overly combative. If the issue isn’t that huge in the grand scheme of things, try hard to let it go.

It’s like the infamous professor story:

  • A professor picked up an empty mayonnaise jar and filled it with golf balls.
  • He asked the students if the jar was full. They said that it was…
  • The professor picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.
  • The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.
  • He asked the students again if the jar was full. They said that it was…
  • The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. The sand filled up everything else.
  • He asked once more if the jar was full. They said that it was…
  • The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.

The sand is everything else; the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Take care of the golf balls first—the things that really matter.

Set your priorities; the rest is just sand.

(Read the full version here- http://www.biz.colostate.edu/mti/tips/pages/MayonnaiseJarandTwo-Beers.aspx)

How to Indetify Learning Disabilities in Children

Identifying learning disabilities in children

Counseling for Adhd Dyslexia and other learning disabilitiesLearning disabilities in children often go unnoticed. Many people, even good parents and teachers, can miss a few signs, as they are often cloaked under what most consider “poor behavior”. Adults expect a certain level of attention and success out of a child, based on his or her peers, and when a child does not perform up-to par, people often assume that he or she simply isn’t trying. Not only is that very far from the truth, but it’s offensive to the child, making them feel frustrated and alone. Identifying learning disabilities early on helps a child accept that he or she learns differently, and it can help their confidence.

Children with learning disabilities often struggle with self-esteem and loneliness, which can actually kill their mood and exacerbate their disorders. Take ADHD for example, kids with ADHD often do things in a unconventional way, which frustrates others.

The key to helping a child with a learning disability is an understanding that they are not lazy or unmotivated.

Watch for problems with motor skills. If your child struggles with putting letters or numbers in order, it may coincide with his or her inability to organize toys and clothes. Poor coordination while walking, talking, or writing is a big sign of motor skill problems.

You can also look for developmental delays. If your child appears to do many things slower than his or her peers do, he or she could have a developmental delay, or your kid may be struggling with only one thing that holds everything back. This is why communication is important with your child, you have to be able to identify what the setback is.

Watch your child’s interaction with schoolwork. If he or she never touches it, your child may be unmotivated or lazy. However, if you often see your son or daughter often start work but they never finish it, that’s a big sign of ADHD and other frustrating things.

Check their emotional levels. Does your child get angry when you mention his or her performance? Do you notice depressed or irritable moods for no particular reason? High peaks of mania and motivation, followed by low moods are also a big sign of learning disability.

Look for frequent confusion in your son or daughter. If he or she is always losing belongings or focus, it may be a learning disability. 

What are Personality Tests and How do They Help?

A personality test is a way to determine what drives a person, and who they really are. It can reveal aspects about someone’s psyche and genetic code. Many employers, schools, and military services call for a personality test, as the insight will help ensure they select the ideal candidate.

Personality tests are also ideal for assessing criminal minds during an investigation, as well as those who have frequent and dramatic personality changes. Many people use them for everyday reasons as well, such as finding a mate or learning about themselves.

True happiness comes when you can truly understand and love yourself as you are; completely accept your personality and adapt accordingly. You can learn a lot about yourself by asking yourself the right questions, and by taking a personality test. You can work from the results to make positive changes in your life.

You can also use these tests to evaluate the progress of therapy or healing techniques. By taking a personality test, you open yourself up to a world of options for self-improvement but you can also catch or diagnose common psychological disorders you didn’t know you had.

Everyone can benefit from a personality test, so don’t feel nervous or afraid, you’re simply learning about a part of who you are.